In this book

We take you through three steps to better understand yourself so that you can understand your children


Discover your Enneagram personality type. Knowing this is essential to understanding how your personality influences your parenting style, why you react the way you do in certain situations and why others might respond differently to those situations.


Explore the parenting characteristics of your particular personality type. This book provides you with comprehensive and precise tips relevant to your specific personality type.


We will share with you nine keys to unlocking your child’s potential, regardless of their own unique (but still developing) personality, so they can flourish into confident, compassionate and courageous human beings.

Readers Feedback

This book is informative as well as fun to read. It gives perspective to the parenting role and has helped me to see why I might think about things differently from my children. It is always good to find out more about yourself and to better understand your personality type. This book has really given me more confidence in who I am and how I can feel good about my parenting style and better connect with my children. Thanks! Barbara Angus

Authors Spotlight

These are the faces behind the book

Jacqui Pollock

Parent & Teen Coach

An experienced leadership and family coach, author and workshop facilitator, Jacqui coaches diverse groups from undergraduates, senior leaders, school principals, educators and parents.

Tracy Tresidder

Parent & Teen Coach

An experienced executive and family coach, author, and Enneagram teacher who works with parents and teenagers to develop better communication and relationship skills.

Margaret Loftus

Parent & Teen Coach

Margaret is an executive and family coach, workshop facilitator, author and Enneagram teacher bringing greater awareness into relationships within families and the workplace.

What other experts are saying about our book

  • Every parent needs to run and get this book! This book includes "Parenting Strategies for Growth" - which is an easy way to apply the learning to connect and stay connected with our children, teens and young adults. Well done!

    Diana Sterling
    Diana SterlingAuthor, The Parent as Coach Approach
  • "Knowing Me, Knowing Them" gifts us with a practical, useful, and ground breaking work for parents and adults in their relationship with children. You will benefit from this book whether you are new or experienced with the Enneagram.  Thanks to all three of you for this excellent work.

    David Daniels
    David DanielsM.D. Clinical Professor Emeritus Stanford Medical School and Enneagram pioneer
  • The best enneagram books come from those who have long experience using the system with real people. “Knowing Me, Knowing Them” by Tracy , Margaret  and Jacqui is just such a book. Based on their extensive work with parents and families, the authors provide practical and powerful advice for parents of the nine personality types, as well as nine keys to unlock each child’s potential. This book will help those of us who are parents to raise our children with all the love, awareness and skill that this sacred work deserves.

    Peter O'Hanrahan
    Peter O'HanrahanAuthor Embodied Enneagram Handbook
  • I attended a presentation on parenting that Tracy gave at an International Enneagram Association Conference in Hong Kong. I really liked her materials and approach and now find Knowing me; knowing them written with Margaret and Jacqui quite readable and useful. The authors help parents discover and understand the high and low sides of their own parenting styles and offer nine keys to unlocking their child’s potential that can be used by all nine styles. I believe parents will find enlightening the insights and suggestions offered and I’m sure their children will be thankful their parents read this book.

    Jerry Wagner Ph.D
    Jerry Wagner Ph.DAuthor, Nine Lenses on the World: The Enneagram perspective
  • Finally we have an Enneagram and parenting book that helps us understand how our personality type affects the way we are and aren’t effective at the very important task of parenting. I know many parents will find the insights of this book to be invaluable to them, especially if they take seriously the recommended practices at the end of their type chapter.

    Margaret Smith
    Margaret SmithAuthor, Money: from fear to love - using the Enneagram to create wealth prosperity & love