The Enneagram is an ancient wisdom system that studies the motivational differences between people and identifies nine different personality styles.

The word ‘enneagram’ has Greek origins and refers to a shape, or symbol, with nine points.

The diagram illustrates how each style is pointed toward their specific direction for individual growth and also what behaviours they develop when under stress.

While each of us usually has a little of every Enneagram type within us, one type is usually dominant. The personality associated with each type has its own pattern of thinking, feeling and behaving that arises from an inherent, deep, inner motivation or world view. Our dominant Enneagram type remains the same throughout our lifetime, but the presenting characteristics may either soften or become more pronounced as we grow and develop.

By working with the Enneagram, we learn more about ourselves and develop a deeper understanding of others. It shows us how we can choose alternatives to our own patterns of behaviour and break free from habitual and unhelpful coping strategies.

Knowing Me Knowing Them uses this unique system to show parents that they can become the best parents they can be by becoming aware of who they can be at their best.

Discover Your Type

To discover your Enneagram Type we recommend that you first read the 9 paragraphs in the book, followed by reading the chapters that describe your top 3 choices. Next, observe your patterns of behaviour and your reactivity to triggers over the next week or so. Then go back again and read the chapters that describe your top 3 choices. It is important to know that ‘nailing’ your type is not as useful as being on the journey to discover your type.  Assessments are not always 100% accurate and the self-observation that takes place on the journey to discover type is much more valuable. Once you become a better observer (non-judgementally) of yourself your path to growth is much smoother.

If you would like to take a free test you can click on the link and you will be taken to Integrative Enneagram Solutions website.  Here you can take the test for free. Click on the box in the upper right that says “test your type” and once complete you will be able to see your Enneagram type or purchase the report.

As we are trained in the Narrative Tradition we feel that a typing interview is probably the best way to begin to discover your Enneagram Type. Use the contact page to set up an appointment.


As parents, it is crucial to the flourishing of our children that we have a good understanding of our own personality and the ways our behaviours and reactions positively and negatively affect our children. With greater awareness comes greater flexibility and more choice as we respond to the challenges of parenting.

The Enneagram maps nine basic personality types, their patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving, and the relationships between them.

We each have a little of every Enneagram type within us but one type is usually dominant. The personality associated with each type has its own pattern of thinking, feeling and behaving that arises from an inherent, deep, inner motivation or world view.

The following is an outline of each of the nine types.

Type One: The perfectionist and the organiser

The principled, idealistic type. Ones are ethical and conscientious, with a strong sense of right and wrong. They are teachers and crusaders, always striving to improve things but afraid of making a mistake. Well organised, orderly, and sometimes fastidious, Ones try to maintain high standards but can slip into being critical and perfectionist.

Type Two: The helper and the giver

The caring, supportive type, Twos are empathetic, sincere and warm hearted. They are friendly, generous and self-sacrificing, but they can also be sentimental, flattering and people pleasing. They are driven to be close to others, and they often do things for others in order to be needed.

Type Three: The achiever and the motivator

The adaptable, success-oriented type. Threes are self-assured, attractive and charming. Ambitious, competent and energetic, they can also be
status conscious and highly driven for personal advancement. Threes are often concerned about their image and what others think of them.

Type Four: The creative and the individualist

The expressive, introspective type. Fours are self- aware, sensitive, reserved and quiet. They are self- revealing, emotionally honest and personal, but they can also be moody and self-conscious. Withholding themselves from others due to feeling vulnerable and defective, they can also feel disdainful and exempt from ordinary ways of living.

Type Five: The observer and the investigator

The objective, cerebral type. Fives are intense, alert, insightful and curious. They are able to concentrate and focus on developing complex ideas and skills. Independent and innovative, they can become preoccupied with their thoughts and imaginary constructs. They then become detached, yet highly strung and intense.

Type Six: The questioner and the loyalist

The committed, safety-conscious type. Sixes are reliable, hardworking and responsible, but they can also be defensive, evasive and highly anxious – running on stress while complaining about it. They are often cautious and indecisive but can also be reactive, defiant and rebellious.

Type Seven: The enthusiast and the epicure

The busy, productive type. Sevens are versatile, optimistic and spontaneous. Playful, high-spirited and practical, they can also be overextended, scattered and undisciplined. They constantly seek new and exciting experiences, but they can become distracted and exhausted by staying on the go.

Type Eight: The asserter and the protector

The powerful, dominating type. Eights are self- confident, strong and assertive. Protective, resourceful and decisive, they can also be proud and domineering. Eights feel that they must control their environment, often becoming confrontational and intimidating.

Type Nine: The accommodator and the peacemaker

The easy going, unassuming type. Nines are diplomatic, accepting, trusting and stable. They
are good natured, kind hearted and supportive
but can also be too willing to go along with others to keep the peace. They want everything to be without conflict, but can tend to be complacent and minimise anything upsetting.